Sunday, 11 December 2011

• As a woman

  This post is inspired by women around me who got divorced and dumped like trash. Growing up, I hear relatives, friends, strangers on public transport talking about how a woman should lead her life. It's depressing and disappointing to hear women wanting to rely on men to lead a better life. I'm not trying to say that men are unreliable but I wish that women are more independent. 

  My ideas formed when I get to know more people especially men. There is only a very small number of men who are considered real men. Some worrisome things I heard men said are "It's such a burden to take care of a woman. Worse when she doesn't work and want to buy this and that.", "If only I could find a rich woman and marry her, I no longer have to worry for my future.", "I got married to her just because I can't find a woman I truly love. Better have someone than no one.", "Wait till I find someone prettier, I'll dump my current girlfriend.", "I would dump my girlfriend if you become mine.", "I'm just dating her because I haven't met a girl I really like. I'll leave her once that girl comes by.", "I'm only with her because she's pretty. I don't want to have ugly kids.", "I can never be with an awesome woman so I'll just settle for her." Terrible isn't it? I wouldn't consider these guys as men, they are just boys in my eyes. Although most of the men I met are disappointing, I still have hope. I have met a few really good men that stayed loyal throughout their marriage. They give me hope. 

   As a woman, or even a person, you should never rely on a person fully. At least to me. For instance, if I marry a man and be a housewife. I don't work, don't have working experience after I get married and if one day he decides to leave me, what is left of me? Will I be able to support myself with having so little working experience? What if I have kids and they need to go to school and EAT? I believe that no matter how much a man loves me, his love might change. Marriage is a bet. It might or might not last. Even if it lasts, what if one day he refuses to give me money for my daily expenditure?

  As a woman, I think one should work, be financially independent in order to prepare for the worst that life or marriage might throw at you. To me, money is not the root of all evil but not having money is the root of all evil. Money is powerful and it can save you a lot of unnecessary worries. There are just too many benefits by being financially independent. A woman will automatically be more confident. She can buy whatever she wants, contribute to the family, have the ability to help her husband if he is facing financial difficulties and most importantly, not getting looked down at or being a burden. If her marriage fails, at least she will not lose everything. 

  It's just my thought on how I should lead my life as a woman, what do you think?

   

   

   

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